In his latest book, Paul Meacham tackles the difficult topics of motivation and change. Whether it is your job, your family life, or your marriage, change can be as important as a new car or a new dress in the eyes of most people.
Some motivational speakers will talk about what they have learned over the years, or how the personal experiences and wisdom that have contributed to their success have helped them achieve their goals. They may tell the stories of personal successes that have motivated them to reach their goals. They may even speak about why they believe in change and motivation, and how they want you to succeed. However, what few people hear is the perspective of someone who understands change.
This perspective is one that is shared by many successful business people today, especially those who are leaders of large organizations. In fact, it is often considered “the secret” when it comes to motivating people and creating a powerful change process.
Meacham writes that there are three types of people: those who go for it, those who try but fail, and those who don’t try at all. Of these three groups, he says that the ones who don’t try are probably more afraid of failure than those who do. The “go for it” people “don’t have anything to lose” and so they go for it. On the other hand, people who try but don’t succeed have more to fear because they have already lost what they have worked for. People who don’t try are those who feel the need to try, but they don’t know how.
This fear of failure, he says, is a “disease” that affects almost everyone, no matter what they think about. He says it is also contagious, which means that it has the potential to make anyone feel inadequate and afraid to try. The fear of failure that many people develop has caused so much frustration and unhappiness in their lives that it is becoming a “fever.” When a person begins to feel this way, the “fever” will take control and they will be consumed with the need to do something to change it.
In order to change a habit, one must be willing to make a change, and not simply change the way that the habit was done. Change needs to be about making positive changes rather than trying to break negative habits that are part of a lifestyle. Changing your mind and changing your body is not about breaking the “bad habits” you have learned, but about replacing them with positive habits that make you a better you.
To change a habit, one must make a conscious decision to replace it with a positive one. If you decide not to change, you will be giving up on the chance to make a change. If you decide to change, you will be facing the possibility of a life without those bad habits. However, when you choose to keep those bad habits, you will be giving up on the opportunity to learn the “right” ones, thus putting yourself back into the cycle of negative thought and behavior.
As you make choices in life and change, you will become stronger and wiser and less anxious about situations. As you gain confidence, you will become less anxious and less fearful about what may happen. Finally, as you begin to see your life differently, you will find that you can face any situation in life with more confidence, and less fear. This is the only way that you can get past fear and realize your dreams.